The most brilliant minds in our world have struggled with the greatest, most embarrassing, most debilitating mental illnesses. Just like lifting weights, the more we work, the more mental muscles we build. The people around you who have to fight uphill every step of the way have some pretty huge mental muscles, even though they may not seem “normal” to you.
When I have a plan to deal with a fear, no matter how scary, the impact is lessened. When I can accept that I’m afraid and say that it is okay to be afraid, the shock of it all lessens as well.
People who think they understand mental illness when they don’t, can be really toxic people without meaning to be.
There’s usually two ways in which mental illness and abuse go together. Either the mentally ill person takes out their illness on others in an abusive way, or the people around them abuse them because of their mental illness. These things often get combined into messy, unhealthy family relationships, so I want to hopefully explain some of the ways in which and reasons why people behave in an abusive way, so that forgiveness and healing can occur.
When I panic, I immediately forget all of my coping mechanisms. I forget how to breathe, I forget how to do self talk, I forget to take my meds etc. The coping toolbox is a nice easy way to assemble all the things that help me to calm down in one place. That way, the only thing I have to remember to do is look inside my toolbox.
Real men cry, strength is NOT the ability to hide/ignore your emotions, there is nothing wrong with being depressed, anxious or suicidal, and Kraft cheese is not real cheese.
This week, I had a sudden and severe flare in my depression. I’m normally pretty happy and able to accomplish things, but from time to time I have a day where I don’t want to do anything but lay in bed and sleep. This time was different though. I woke up Sunday morning suddenly unable… Continue reading The Problem With Cutting